Overcoming Trauma
BECOMING AWARE
Real trauma affects the life of people suffering from it profoundly. It is and should not be taken lightly. It impacts all personal relationships (with themselves and others), puts immense stress on the bodies’ immune-, resilience- and defense mechanisms, creates chronic anxiety, low self-esteem, focus issues, physical and/or mental fatigue and a compromised ability to enjoy life.
A traumatized person often doesn’t get the right recognition, support or understanding from their surrounding environment. People don’t understand the depth and pain of the emotional stagnation it incurs, are often overwhelmed by it and keep distance as a result. This emotional rejection, although a healthy reflex, reaffirms by itself the sense of isolation already present within the affected person.
Trauma resolves around negatively established beliefs, caused by one or more ‘emotional crisis’-experiences, so overwhelming or terrifying to the soul, that the bodies’ survival mechanism had to come into play and suppress all intense, negatively charged emotions to protect the affected person from further damage or even literally dying. As a result, one becomes chronically anxious and nervous, socially debilitated and physically and emotionally exhausted over-time. The longer the trauma is present and remains suppressed, the more detrimental to the mental and emotional capacities, the bodies’ resilience and social interactions or support. Ailments, isolation and sickness are the result.
HOW MUCH CAN YOU HEAL?
So is it by all means possible (and needed) to resurface and live through all these heavy emotions again, process and reverse all physical and social consequences? Let’s say it depends on several aspects, of which most lie in the affected person itself and the quality of support and guidance he or she receives. For example, the extend to which self-awareness is present and the willingness to mirror one’s own fear, guilt and shame is very important to heal. A little light in one’s heart should still be burning, providing even the faintest of hope, some resilience, a pinch of trust and willingness to overcome.
But you don’t walk the path alone, you will be supported and guided, exploring the 3 relating pillars of your health, examining your in- or co-dependency, rebuilding your clarity, confidence and orientation. You’ll gradually find your way out of the forest by walking step-by-step, map and torch at hand and carrying the courage, patience and resilience of a pioneer inside your heart.
EXPECTATION
Fully recovering from deep trauma cannot be achieved in a few sessions. You could see it as a life-long work-in-progress, that you grow out of at some point, the same way you grow out of your favorite clothes. You can hang on to it for a bit too long, or you can be considerate and decisive in letting the past rest in peace and move on to the next step. The scars won't disappear, but the pain can fade away.
One signal of healing would be that you’re starting to focus on creating new things or initiate renewed social contacts. Or that you become more accepting of your own situation or find better ways to deal with or protect from certain behaviors of people. The focus will evolve from the outward to the inner world, where you start creating your own safe and private home and garden of Eden, a place which you love to nurture and spend time in, making it flourish and shine ever more over-time. If you persist in love and take care of yourself, you’ll be protective enough to withstand unwanted intruders, unable to harm you anymore. Gradually you’ll end up in a positive feedback loop and will want to express your joy from the top of the roof of the safe haven you’ve been building for yourself over the years.
INSIGHT AND MANIFESTATION
We will aim to establish a profound basis for self-recovery, setting out a path of insight, courage and determination to overcome even the roughest of hardship, providing the tools you need to put you back into the saddle. We will engage to:
- 1 Identify limiting beliefs
What thoughts, emotions and/or physical sensations are holding you back
- 2 Explore alternative perspectives
Dialogue with your hurt soul parts
- 3 Reconnect with inner-self, feel your body
Find, feel and feed the light from within
- 4 Gratitude, esteem & self-care
Practice daily humbleness, positivity, putting things in perspective, growing self-confidence, nurturing care
- 5 Clear, healthy boundaries & communication
Making conscious, rational and determined choices, using more impactful words and behaviors, being smarter than the conflict
- 6 Orientation & surroundings
Rebuilding identity, addressing external, blocking factors, integrating nurturing home, people and environment
- 7 Replenishing your body
Gradually integrating healthy foods, cleansing & detox protocols, rebalance physical disturbances
HOW TO APPLY
Mutual trust is very important in establishing a good therapeutic relationship. Therefor, our introductory online meeting (30min) is free. We can get to know each other, identify your health concerns and what you hope to get from our collaboration, ask any questions and most importantly feel if we're a good fit or not. In certain situations it might occur that I’m not the right person to help you out. In that case, I will advice on which practice or person would suit you better.
For further practical and financial details, please visit: Practicalities or contact me straight away through the form below or the classic Contact page.
